Category: Dating and Relationships
How does one know if they are in love, or just in lust? Is physical attraction a big component of love, and does true, romantic, endless love exist, or are we all on a quest for an elusive fairytale?
Hmm, well, I really shouldn't answer this question, as I have just been crushed. Somewhere out there however, I think deep inside of most of us we itch for that special someone, that prince charming, or that splendid princess. Deep inside us we feel that a true pure love has to be out there, but most of us only find out that either it never existed according to them, or, what they felt was love really only turned out to be a temporary lust for someone. Yes, I do believe physical attraction plays a part in if you love someone, but at the same time, and on the same token, so does the mental and emotional part of the spectrim.
yes, true love does exist, you just have to be patient. i can't say exactly how one knows he or she's in love, all i can say is, you just know. there's no tail tale signs or anything, it's just something you feel. i also believe that physical attraction plays a part in weather you love someone, but it certainly doesn't define it.
For me to even attempt to answer this question is against every fiber of my being. But the short answer is, As rome was not built in a day, love cannot be built in a day, not true love. It is something that needs help and support frm both sides, and it takes working together.
Truthfully there is no right or wrong answer to this question. I'm sure that far greater minds than mine have pondered what love is and have fallen way
short with any sort of definition. After all love can mean a whole host of different things to different people under different circumstances. You can
have the life long enduring kind of love that a parent would have for their child, or the slow burning type of love that may be shared by couple that have
been married for 50 years or more. For that matter who is to really say that even lust and infatuation aren't themselves a form a real love. Admittedly
a very quick burning, fiery inferno type of love but love never the less. Really all you can do is dip your toe into the waters and find out how hot the
pool is.
All I can really say for any certainty, and this doesn't even remotely answer your question, is that love between a couple isn't a constant thing. I don't
mean that you can love somebody for 10 years, wake up one morning and suddenly have no love left at all, but that love evolves over time. The love that
you felt when you first met somebody; first held hands in a restaurant with somebody; first made love with somebody won't necessarily feel the same 20
years down the line.
Seriously, you could pose this question to a million different people, receive a million different answers and yet still be no closer to knowing the truth.
In short, love is whatever it means to you, and the only person who can ever know that, is you.
On that note I shall shut up, apart from to wish you luck in your search.
there is true love, though it doesn't happen the way the Disney movies put it. You can't fall in love in as long as it takes a mooshy song to play but yes, it it is real...the tricky part is that like Harp said, it can mean so many different things.
The physical is very important in a relationship. If you say you love someine but are repulsed by their person, a definite red flag should go up. However, the physical should never be put above the emotional or mental aspects of love.
How do you know that you're in love? I'm not sure how to answer that other than to simply say that it completely side-swipes you and when you're in it, you definitely know.
hope that helped.
Hmm frightening, consuming, confusing and more than a bit daunting, and there are no drugs you can take, that will replicate the feeling.
Well i think that it would be hard to exoplain. I could not begin to discribe it as I have been in and out of love some many times it is not evwen funny.
That iis my thought for not.
I can't believe I am even trying to respond to this: but, we all do strange things. I think that defines love too. I think that when you are in love, it's an all-inclusive, all-consuming desire to be with the person, to worship that person. Is love lust? Lust is part of love, just like mud is part of a rain storm. I think physical attraction has little to do with love: it's a tautology. You are attracted to the one whom you love, not you love the one you are attracted to. Otherwise, love would be a reward for the beautiful, not the rest of us bumpkins.
Be forewarned, though, love changes, and people can, sadly enough, fall out of love too.
Oh well, enough said.
Bob
i wish I knew what it was like to fall in love. I'm the one who posted this from a friends account, and she too wonders as well.
I think love is just an elusive search we'll never find.
The days of true love are over in my book.
I thought I'd found true love, but I was wrong?
I loved this person with everything I had, but it wasn't enough I guess.
So what now, do some find out what it's like to be in love, and others live as old maids, or batchlors respectfully speaking, or is there one person out there for each one of us?
Do some become cynics as far as love is concerned, or does one have to hurt in order to love?
i agree with harp love in itself can have so many different components. Maybe it is an attachment but the feeling is still there reguardless. You can only take the chances or run from it for ever, but Isn't it better to say you were happy in love for a time then to say I've never felt that and I won't let myself. I also agree love takes time. It takes honesty, trust, hard trouths, paisients and sacrifice.
I too think it takes patients, to be in love. I think you are either connected or you are not.
However it shouldn't matter being in love is one of the gratest feelings in the world, but the fallout hurts like hell!!!
I agree with Beautiful_Dorien you have to wait to find true love, it's not something that happens, and there are no real qualities to look for except ones you may find.
Love: this pain, this fire of desire, and even when you're with that person the pain still exists, pain that resides even more strongly when you're away from that person. yeah, I think you feel it, feel the connection or have a feeling that it is there, but there is always the doubt of whether the other person feels it too. you want to jump blindly into a sea even when the tide is not in your favor, and even if it s lust it is still a burning desire that doesn't fade until it is forced upon you. crying for no reason, or a reason that is minimal....how do you know? I guess you just do. and even if it is just a brief lust, it doesn't make it any less strong for that moment, at least. it doesn't matter what it is at that moment, whether it's love or lust one should probably still make the leap. lust turns into love, abandoning initial attractions could be neglecting an everlasting connection.
Lust is a shallow way of love, you love someone in a way that is desiring only certain things. Romantic love is liking the person as a whole and really wanting their entirety. Meaning that you share values, ethics, and quite a number of views.